I was talking to a guy about travel. Naturally, Paris came up in the conversation. I told him it would've been great if I had visited Paris in my 20's but that I was also glad to be going now as a full-fledged adult. I'd have a better handle on the language, and what to expect from the locals (namely the men). I won't be seduced, instead I'd choose the man I want and then let him think he seduced me.
The guy I was speaking with isn't from NY so I asked him if he'd heard of the Dominique Strauss-Kahn case (DSK is now counter-suing the hotel maid he is accused of sexually assaulting). He had vague knowledge of the case and I explained to him what I'd learned, while researching the DSK scandal, about the sexual entitlement French men seem to exhibit -- the séducteur. How much of that is actually "fah real", he asked.
Let me share the story I shared with him.
I thought I was meeting a man to practice French. After some mix-up and mistaken identity, it didn't work out but I did meet a Parisian expat who's been here 3 years. We said our goodbyes about 10 minutes after clearing up the mix-up. Fast forward two days:
HIM (via text): Hello Abbie! It's -------, the real one, not the Cl guy! How are you?
Me: Good Morning, ----------. I'm doing well today. Comment ca va?
HIM: Ca va! Thinking about you and about what you are looking for on Cl?
Me: Je ne parle pas francais. I want to learn conversational French. I plan on visiting Paris. I have Rosetta Stone but I also want to practice.
HIM: Oh! I see!
Me: Yes. I wasn't trying to harass you. What did you think?
HIM: So, I guess you're not interested to share a bottle of wine, kisses and sex at my place tonight?
Me: This must be the CL guy
HIM: No! You know that this number is the real one! If you want to learn french language, you have to learn french culture... I know what I want! So...
Me: I know about that part of French culture. I've had French lovers.
Been there, done them mon homme
HIM: Great! So, don't be afraid! I'm honest with you but I'm a gentleman!
This continued for a while longer. I told him I appreciated his honesty but was wary of the whole situation. If I were to meet him again just in general, it'd have to be in public.
HIM: And for tonight, it's ok! I propose, you decide! I'm sad but I understand!
HIM: Tonight or never! It's my way to live, the life is too short! Take the right decision! :)
Apparently it was a one-day sale*
Me: That's unfortunate.
HIM: If you change your mind...
One-day sales always happen more than once
Me: You said tonight or never so if YOU change your mind...
*Before posting this blog (it was in my drafts folder) he has contacted me again asking what I like to drink and invited me to "come over".
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